Divorce mediation allows people the opportunity to work toward solutions that are tailored specifically to their needs and the needs of their children, rather than being fashioned from the outside by judges and lawyers. The role of a divorce mediator is to help the parties overcome issues of resentment, anger, and ill-will, and then to direct their attention toward fashioning an agreement that is truly in the best interest of all involved. Each side must learn to listen carefully to the other so that he or she truly understands what is motivating that person. Mediation is the process of reaching a deep understanding of the other party so that the solutions can flow from there in a way that is responsive to the needs of both.
Mediation is not always easy, nor is it right for everyone. Sometimes one of the parties will be so focused on settling the score for perceived wrongs that it can be difficult to work cooperatively. Both parties must be fully committed to working out solutions for the betterment of both. If not, the mediation process may fail. Also if there are issues of substance abuse, child abuse or domestic violence, mediation will not be appropriate.
In most instances, however, if the parties are committed to the process, mediation will lead to a successful resolution. Moreover, where the parties have invested more of their time and energy into the agreement, they will be more committed to making it work in the years that follow.
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